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11 15th, 2008| 
Having spent the last X months, maybe years, planning your wedding, then the day itself has come and gone and your wonderful honeymoon is quickly fading to a memory, you may find that you have come back down to earth with a bump. Particularly if you already lived with your fianc้ before you got married, you might be wondering where your rose tinted glasses have gone and whether you’ll ever see the end of the bills and invoices sitting on the doormat. If you weren’t already living together, you may by now be wondering what on earth you have let yourself in for, doomed for a life of picking up dirty socks and battling with a sink load of dishes.
It is perfectly normal to experience a bit of a low once the last gift has been opened and thank you note sent and you’ve watched the video for the 99th time. You have been running on a heady mix of adrenaline, nerves and passion for months on end and once all the excitement of the wedding has passed you now have to adjust to the idea of being married. Yes, this is what it was all in aid of, all those sleepless nights and sobbing over the seating plan were to get you to this point of being Mrs. Married Name and now you have to decide what to do with yourself!
The best remedy to beating the blues is to get yourself into a routine or system and get yourself back into the swing of ‘ordinary’ life and then plan romantic and exciting boosts to zap into it. Surprise your new hubby if you can get home before him, by meeting him at the front door in some sexy underwear or leaving a trail of confetti (there’s bound to be a box left over, otherwise invest in some reusable silk rose petals or cut out a pile of paper hearts) up the stairs to a candle lit bath with some romantic music playing softly in the background.
Just a small gesture such as writing a romantic message in the steam on the bathroom mirror or slipping a note into Mr. Married Name’s briefcase can give you a little fun. If he isn’t reciprocating, tell him you’d like a little excitement and attention, to be brought flowers on a whim or breakfast in bed at weekends.
Finding ways to keep the affection in your day to day lives together is enormously important and can require all the ingenuity you demonstrated in planning your wedding. The best way to keep things happy and fulfilling is to be tactile; give him a squeeze when you pass on the stairs, or a cuddle while he’s doing the dishes, snuggle up in front of the television and make time for the two of you to do things together that you both enjoy.
If you are both really feeling flat, get some holiday brochures or look online to start thinking about a holiday for next year when you have recovered your finances; start planning how you want to redecorate your home or what you would like to do in the garden. Book tickets to the theatre or a table for two at your favourite restaurant. Cook a candle lit meal or book seats in a local comedy club.
Arrange a night out or a dinner party that you can both look forward to and spend time together in preparing. Having things to look forward to is what keeps us going and makes life worth living.
Keep the dialogue flowing and discuss what you both need to feel happy and relaxed in your lives together and act on it! Now this is what being Mrs. Married Name is all about!
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