Dec 10

The old tale about a bride and groom receiving half a dozen toasters from well-meaning relatives on their wedding day has passed into 70s history. But, what to buy the modern couple? It’s a question that is guaranteed to drive their guests to near insanity.

Toasters, bed linen, TVs, pots, pans and all the rest of the boring household necessities are fine but… let’s face it, they aren’t fun to buy, they aren’t fun to receive and they certainly aren’t going to increase in value! So, why not think of the unconventional?

I’ve been involved in various businesses in Scotland over the years: weddings, restaurants, photography, writing, letting property are just a few. And this modern, multi-streaming lifestyle led me eventually to the simple world of buying and selling.

We had a problem. We owned a small Highlands restaurant which could not possibly bring in enough money even if we worked every hour available and filled the place to bursting point night after night. So we thought: let’s sell things as well. We already had a good customer base, and so the challenge was to sell things to them in addition to the good quality food. We needed to ‘add value’ to their dining experience, and charge them for it.

These were the criteria we set:

1 We refused to load profit onto the wine. We knew the profit margins on wine and knew that it was a common tactic of restaurants to charge customers through the nose for drink. And we knew how customers felt about this. They simply don’t like being ripped off! Neither do we.

2 The retail items would need to add to and improve the general ambience of the restaurant so ‘tat’ was out.

3 The items would have to sell themselves. We wouldn’t have the time to give customers the ‘hard sell’ while preparing and serving food and, besides, hard sell is not our style. We don’t feel comfortable with it.

4 The things would have to look good, feel good and be intrinsically interesting.

5 They would have to be accessible to customers, not locked away in drawers or cupboards.

6 They would be the type of thing that would encourage a dinner party atmosphere between diners rather than put up communication barriers. In short, they would encourage conversation.

7 There would need to be a range of items, from the cheap to the expensive so we could not rely on one supplier.

8 We needed a regular and reliable supply of these items.

9 They needed to be cheap to buy and yet give us a healthy profit margin.

10 And finally, they needed to be things that we liked. How could we live with things we hated and how could we sell them to others? Unthinkable!

And the answer to our problem after weeks and months of thinking? Second-hand books, antiques and collectables!

We lined the restaurant with bookshelves and filled them with hard back literature. We filled every nook and cranny with curios. We hung things from walls and from beams and from every spare vertical surface. We even cleared out an old shed and packed it to the gunnels with interesting things. And all of them carried a price tag.

And the result? Success beyond our wildest dreams! The customers loved it, they bought it by the barrowload (we sold barrows as well!) and we made handsome profits. And it was great fun.

So, where did we buy all these items? At local auctions, that’s where. And we still go to them. They are addictive. And we still deal now and again even though we sold our restaurant last year. It’s on a smaller scale than before, admittedly, but that means we can be more selective. Silver and glassware, jewellery and genuine antiques - they are all there to be had as potential wedding presents. Monart glass, silver napkin rings, antique silver-topped wine and vinegar bottles are much more fun than a toaster and, if you buy wisely, you will be giving the lucky couple something that is both beautiful and a sound financial investment.

Think valuable, think collectable! Don’t think toaster!

Charlie Taylor is one of the founders of Highland Country Weddings Ltd, a Scottish weddings agency with an international dimension. Visit http://www.highlandcountryweddings.co.uk/gifts.htm for a free discussion about your wedding in no-obligation quote.

Nov 15

Having spent the last X months, maybe years, planning your wedding, then the day itself has come and gone and your wonderful honeymoon is quickly fading to a memory, you may find that you have come back down to earth with a bump. Particularly if you already lived with your fianc้ before you got married, you might be wondering where your rose tinted glasses have gone and whether you’ll ever see the end of the bills and invoices sitting on the doormat. If you weren’t already living together, you may by now be wondering what on earth you have let yourself in for, doomed for a life of picking up dirty socks and battling with a sink load of dishes.

It is perfectly normal to experience a bit of a low once the last gift has been opened and thank you note sent and you’ve watched the video for the 99th time. You have been running on a heady mix of adrenaline, nerves and passion for months on end and once all the excitement of the wedding has passed you now have to adjust to the idea of being married. Yes, this is what it was all in aid of, all those sleepless nights and sobbing over the seating plan were to get you to this point of being Mrs. Married Name and now you have to decide what to do with yourself!

The best remedy to beating the blues is to get yourself into a routine or system and get yourself back into the swing of ‘ordinary’ life and then plan romantic and exciting boosts to zap into it. Surprise your new hubby if you can get home before him, by meeting him at the front door in some sexy underwear or leaving a trail of confetti (there’s bound to be a box left over, otherwise invest in some reusable silk rose petals or cut out a pile of paper hearts) up the stairs to a candle lit bath with some romantic music playing softly in the background.

Just a small gesture such as writing a romantic message in the steam on the bathroom mirror or slipping a note into Mr. Married Name’s briefcase can give you a little fun. If he isn’t reciprocating, tell him you’d like a little excitement and attention, to be brought flowers on a whim or breakfast in bed at weekends.

Finding ways to keep the affection in your day to day lives together is enormously important and can require all the ingenuity you demonstrated in planning your wedding. The best way to keep things happy and fulfilling is to be tactile; give him a squeeze when you pass on the stairs, or a cuddle while he’s doing the dishes, snuggle up in front of the television and make time for the two of you to do things together that you both enjoy.

If you are both really feeling flat, get some holiday brochures or look online to start thinking about a holiday for next year when you have recovered your finances; start planning how you want to redecorate your home or what you would like to do in the garden. Book tickets to the theatre or a table for two at your favourite restaurant. Cook a candle lit meal or book seats in a local comedy club.

Arrange a night out or a dinner party that you can both look forward to and spend time together in preparing. Having things to look forward to is what keeps us going and makes life worth living.

Keep the dialogue flowing and discuss what you both need to feel happy and relaxed in your lives together and act on it! Now this is what being Mrs. Married Name is all about!

Sarah saved enough money on her dream wedding to pay for her honeymoon. Get advice on how to save money on your wedding. This article is presented to you in conjunction with Knowsley Website Designer. Republication is free, but all content including this resource box and all hyperlinks must remain intact.

Nov 8

A celebratory toast to the bride and groom is deeply ingrained in wedding tradition, but do you know how the venerable custom came about?

Nov 8

Every newly betrothed couple assumes that their event will go off without a hitch. But there’s one big mitigating factor in this lofty assumption.

Oct 2

Ever since early man learned to beat a stick on a rock, some guy has embarrassed his family by dancing to it.